I am what I am.

Kayley and I had a conversation earlier that’s been on my mind all night. We were discussing Pinterest, which is an addiction she and I both share. We were discussing how someone we know from church just joined Pinterest, and started following both of us. Kayley asked, mostly jokingly, if I was going to start being more “careful” with what I was pinning now. I said, “Hell no! I am who I am! She’ll have to get used to it!” We laughed, but then I started thinking more about social media, and how Pinterest has added yet another level of instant intimacy between people who oftentimes barely know one another. And I guess sometimes that can be weird.

I think, though, that I’m pretty much the same person online as I am in person. I don’t have some public persona that differs to greatly from how I am behind closed doors. Sometimes, that’s proven to be a bit of a detriment. There have been lots of times where I’ve wished later on that I would have kept my mouth shut about something, for sure. I really do wish I was better at that. But the truth is, I’m not. My parents always encouraged me to be a precocious, outspoken smart ass, and apparently it’s stayed with me.

You know what, though? I am totally okay with that. I want people to read my blog and see the things I pin and be like, “Yep, that sounds just like Laura.” I personally love getting to know people better via social media. I love finding out somebody else had the same Run DMC poster on their bedroom wall in 1986. I love seeing people’s Christmas trees. I love hearing about how much they love their kids. It’s all cool. And honestly? I LOVE it when I get to know someone better and realize they have some “dirty little secret,” like they love gangsta rap, or they drank too much on New Years Eve, or they say FUCK sometimes. I love that. It’s like, “Hey! Look at me, being an actual person over here!” I love that. But what I love is finding out someone is even MORE awesome than I originally thought – like, I already knew they were funny, but now I know they love Star Wars, sushi, and good beer. I HATE it when I find out someone has a secret, shitty side that I wouldn’t have known about otherwise. Like, they always seemed nice and friendly, but then you friend them on Facebook and find out that they’re racist, homophobic, or just phony shit-talkers. I don’t THINK you’re going to find that with me. Really. I mean, I might be completely delusional, but I’d like to believe that people are not all that surprised when they friend me on Facebook or follow me on Pinterest. I’m pretty transparent.

Do you find that you censor yourself online?

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  1. Amy says:

    I do censor myself at times. Mostly because of work/client stuff. If I were a SAHM, I don’t think I’d censor myself too much at all.

    LaLaLaura Reply:

    You have that knack, though, for saying what needs to be said with tact and grace. I don’t always have that, for sure!

    Amy Reply:

    Yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Not so sure I agree with the tact & grace thing. We know a number of people that would probably disagree with that. :-)

    I was just reading the other comments here and I have to say – I don’t think censoring yourself = lying.

    Also, I don’t get notice when there’s a reply on here any more! Boo.

  2. I do NOT censor myself. I am the same online as I am off. I don’t hide my name, protect friends or family… If you met me for lunch, you would know exactly what to expect. :)

    LaLaLaura Reply:

    I’ve always thought that about you, and I’ve always thought you and I would get along smashingly. Lets meet for lunch next time you’re in Denver or I’m in VA Beach, okay?

  3. Jenn says:

    I am who I am. I don’t pretend to be anyone else… I just don’t have it in me, for one. For two, that shit is exhausting and you can’t keep it up anyway. Who you really are will come out eventually.

    LaLaLaura Reply:

    That’s what I’ve always felt, too – not to mention, my memory is shit nowadays, so I wouldn’t be able to lie if I wanted to, because I’d never be able to keep my story straight.

  4. Tina says:

    I have some things I don’t talk about online. For one thing, I won’t air other people’s dirty laundry. To me, that means no talk about the details of the end of my marriage or some childhood stuff. I also don’t talk about work to the point where I don’t name my employer. I am honest about my political and social viewpoints which I know some people I’m connected with don’t agree with and some probably gossip about my morals and values.
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    LaLaLaura Reply:

    I think that’s a good balance, Tina, and I think that’s pretty much expected just as common blogger courtesy, y’know? I don’t talk (much) about my first marriage either, and I actually took down the first few years of my blog archives from when he and I were married and then got divorced. (Although I might have taken them down anyway, just to get rid of SO MANY pics of me in overall shorts with giant permed hair.)

  5. Shanna says:

    I do censor myself online but it’s mostly in the “If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all” kind of way. Sometimes I want to complain about my neighbors online but I have to stop and think who will see it and if it might get back to them…and is it really worth all that for a minute of blowing off some steam? Does that make sense? But mostly I’m as you say “transparent” you pretty much get what you see with me. I also do try to keep things more upbeat than might seem normal. If I’m having a down day or whatever I just don’t post. I don’t want to drag anyone else down by being a “debbie downer”
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