OMG, I have to go through this with 4 more kids??
Kayley and I just had a very tense discussion about homework, and more specifically, TURNING IT IN. I don’t know why it’s so easy for her to send a thousand text messages a day, but so difficult to turn in her homework. Tears were shed by her and by myself as well. And I confiscated her phone. I’m debating whether or not to answer all her messages to Dylan, posing as Kayley. That’d just be mean, though, now wouldn’t it?
I’ve made a decision about the homework battle. It’s her baby now. She’s a quarter of the way through 8th grade and I’ve been dragging her by the nostril since the first week of 6th grade to turn her rubber duckin’ homework in. And I’m just done with it. I almost hope she flunks 8th grade, because I don’t see how she’s going to figure this nonsense out otherwise.
Not a lot of joy in the LaLa household this evening, I’m afraid.
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I SO COMPLETELY know what you’re going through. I have taken the phone. Grounded her. I’ve even taken her door off of the hinges just to let her know I mean business. It seems like the more you hold their hands the less they will do it for themselves. Bre’s finally doing really well in school. I say let her go. BUT, make sure you are checking her grades and taking away stuff for the bad as well as giving for the good. She’ll do okay. She’s a smart little one! I’m sure this is an obvious suggestion but all I can say is it worked for me. At least for now……
Justin did the same EXACT thing all through middle school and it drove me up the flipping wall!
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Oh and I have no words of wisdom for you either. He’s still doing it and will most likely flunk 9th grade now also.
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Well, here we are in 6th grade and I pretty much have to sit there for a couple of hours making sure he does his homework, has everything he needs done (since he says he hardly has any and I start looking online and through his agenda folder) then there’s the “I don’t get this…” Then Reese starts being a spaz and I am torn between getting here there and everywhere trying to help everyone… and instead of trying to figure out something or move on to the next thing, he sits there and wastes time waiting for my return. I just don’t get what the problem is and why it’s so freakin’ difficult to do what you are told and follow through to the end.
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Take away ALL luxeries. Especially the cell phone! My kids didn’t get on until they were driving a car, which is 16 years old. Before that, they were totally out of LUCK! Don’t let her grow up so fast, or you have NO leverage!
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I agree, Bev – I never thought my kid would have a cell phone at thirteen, but it’s more for us than for her! With her going back and forth between 2 houses every other week and us being so far from her school, we really need for her to have one.
Not only are you going to have to go through it with four more kids but Kayley is just getting started. She is only in eighth grade afterall.
The phone should absolutely go. Too many kids are given phones at birth and honestly, mine do not get theirs until they earn them AND get good grades.
I went to parent-teacher conferences last night. You are only invited if you have a student failing a class. The lines were hours long and every kid was sitting there texting. Coincidence?
Also, don’t give up. Nothing hurts a kid more than a parent who gives up. Whether it is fighting for them or with them. Just fight. They notice if you stand for them.
In the mean time, count your lucky stars that this is all you have to deal with. Teenage girls are hard. It will get harder.
And hang in there. God makes them like this so it is easier to let them go when they turn 18, lol.
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I’m going through the exact same thing with my 8th grade boy. Nothing we do makes a difference. We are all miserable here.
i know this post is older and maybe it makes no diff. now, but as an 8th grade teacher i can suggest this: make her write her hw down every day in her planner and have teachers initial it, or ask her teachers to email you her assignment every day.
