
I’m sure you can imagine how many chicken nuggets and sticks of string cheese we go through in this house. Buying our pantry and freezer staples in ginormous quantities just makes sense for our family, so we spend quite a bit of time and money in Costco. And I think I may have posted here in the past about the battle Paul and I have with each other over Costco versus Sam’s Club. He prefers Costco, while I like Sam’s Club. We’ve compromised by switching off each year.
We’re sort of dorks about it, really. Normal people don’t have lengthy discussions about the pros and cons of Costco and Sam’s Club. In my mind, it shouldn’t matter: I do the shopping, so I should pick where we shop. The end. In Paul’s mind, Costco has yummier pizza, so I should shop at Costco. Never mind the fact that I NEVER buy pizza there. I like Sam’s Club, because there are just so MANY of them. You can be anywhere in metro Denver and be 10 minutes away from a Sam’s Club, but Costco locations are few and far between. Still, in the end, I decided that Costco had a slight edge over Sam’s Club, and the deciding factor was their individually wrapped frozen chicken breasts. Can you stand the excitement?
I’m not a big fan of shopping at either store, really. When it’s just the girls and I, it’s not too bad, but when you add Pablo into the mix, look out. On a good day, it’s a challenge. On a bad day, it’s a clusterfuck and a half. Pablo’s doing “better” with public outings, but he’s still easily agitated in public, gets overwhelmed around crowds of people and bright lights and beeping sounds, and it’s not at all unusual for him to break out in a sprint from one end of the aisle to the other. And did I leave out the occasional shrieking? Those of you with autistic children know this shriek well. It’s really not that bad. Most of the time, he seems like a typical, excited 5-year-old child. The only thing that sets him apart from other kids is the way he has to open and close every single freezer door while we make our way down the aisle. Or the way he constantly clicks his tongue. Or the way he gets REALLY, REALLY HAPPY when we see a ceiling fan, or a forklift, or a stop sign. Things that you wouldn’t expect people to even notice, let alone find annoyance with.
Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to inconspicuously blend into the crowd of shoppers at Costco. Every single time we shop at Costco, I am almost overwhelmed by the hostility of the other shoppers, the staff, and even the old ladies who give out food samples. As we make our way through the store, I see people looking at us, sighing heavily, giving us that “WTF?” sideways glance, and even whispering to one another while looking right at my son. And you know me, right? I’m friendly! I’m patient! I’m Suzy Fucking Sunshine, man! I always smile at people. I always say, “Excuse us,” and “Whoops, sorry about that,” if we’re in the way and I always make sure our cart is way off to the side instead of right in the middle of the aisle. In most stores, we get what we need and get on our way, and life goes on for everyone. At Costco, I find myself going, “Really? You’re glaring at me because my kids are singing too loudly?”
At first, I thought it was the clientèle. The Costco nearest to us is in an area where a lot of cranky older people shop. Like my parents, for example. I’ve made a point of shopping at several other Costco stores throughout the summer, though, in various parts of town, and I’ve encountered the same hostility at every store. Okay, so here’s the deal. I’m not naive enough to think that other people are going to enjoy being around my kids as much as I do. And I fully support the whole, “If everyone thinks you’re an asshole, chances are it’s not them, it’s you” theory. I’m not entirely opposed to the idea that my family brings chaos with it wherever we go. But - why am I able to shop at Sam’s Club without getting the hairy eyeball? Why can I get through Wal-Mart without feeling like I need to tearfully defend my 5-year-old? Why is it not that big of a deal to go to King Soopers? It’s only when we go to Costco that I find myself hating life.
Laura, also known as LaLaGirl, is the mother of a teenager and two young sets of twins. She's happily married to an enginerd named Paul, loves living in Colorado, and writes almost daily about married life, raising multiples, and parenting a child with autism. In addition to playing Barbies and pretending to eat plastic food all day, Laura spends most of her time folding clean laundry, obsessing about the amount of sugar her kids eat, and vacuuming up Polly Pocket accessories. She's obsessed with Yo Gabba Gabba, red wine, and Family Guy. She also regularly contributes to How Do You Do It? and authors the following blogs:


Sunshine
August 7th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
I pink puffy heart Costco. I just bought my usual six month supply of toilet paper the other day.
As for the “rude” people, don’t worry, their hearts are made of tar and they feel sick to their stomachs that they’re assholes because you have kids who are, god forbid, not acting like nuns.
in short, they can kiss your ass.
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Amy
August 7th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
That’s a weird phenomenon. Someone should write their college thesis on it.
But seriously - sorry you have to encounter intolerant assholes every time you go to Costco. That kind of sucks.
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Kim in SLC
August 7th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
People here have chosen to shop at Costco because it isn’t associated with Wal-Mart. The den of cheap-ass stuff.
Note to Costco snobs everywhere: Costco is associated with Shopco, which isn’t fit to hold Wal-Mart’s jock.
That said, my work gets me a Sam’s Club card. And there’s a Costco very, very close to my house, so the household has a Costco card. I’ve been known to go to both in one day.
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Fool
August 7th, 2008 at 2:54 pm
It’s pretty ridiculous that you have to go through that! MYOB people!
Carina
August 7th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Insert standard “people suck” response.
No, really, that’s lame. But you’re not!
Liz
August 7th, 2008 at 4:46 pm
What Kim said. I think Costco shoppers think they are more superior because it isn’t walmart. In reality they have nothing to stick their noses in the air for. Just like driving a Jag, but it is still made by Ford.
Just ignore them, give them a WTF look back. I would.
Jules
August 7th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
That’s crap. Tell Paul to get his own damn pizza. And guess what? I have that refrigerator magnet! LOL!
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webgrrlie
August 8th, 2008 at 7:13 am
hey, at least Pablo kinda gets away with freaking out in public places, because he’s a 5 y.o. boy. you know my history… can you imagine if a 39 y.o. woman behaved that way? and yet i so wish i could!
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Kris @ momdot
August 14th, 2008 at 8:44 am
Oh we don’t’ have a costco, but we do have Sam’s and I get odd looks myself, buts its usually more because I’ve got the baby in the beco on my back, and my 4 year old sitting nicely in the buggy. Yes well behaved kids must be some rarity.
I agree to ignore them and glare back.
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Lucrecia
August 14th, 2008 at 10:25 am
I have a love hate relationship Costco. I adore the store, when no one else is there. I need a special me only hour. I was there the other day and the woman in front of me, as we are cattle hearded out the front door, got all snarky and rude with someone she thought was trying to pass her without saying excuse me. Yeah, way to show everyone what nice and friendly look like
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kritta22
August 14th, 2008 at 1:19 pm
I would glare at them first…like it’s THEIR fault your kids are singing! It really is. If they weren’t so boring and would entertain your children, then it wouldn’t be an issue!
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The Trel
August 20th, 2008 at 11:54 pm
My 4 year old grandson has Autism and its amazing what people don’t understand! Some days small steps others there are big leaps and if on any given day he isn’t perfect other people can go to hell! He’s my beautiful little man and grampa won’t put up with their snobby crap.