It’s hard being a grownup, huh?
When I was a kid, whenever I went through something horrible and devastating, I always would wish I were an adult already, so I’d know how to deal with it all. I lost a high school boyfriend in a car accident, so I did have to deal with a little bit of grief and shock, beyond, y’know…Diff’rent Strokes being canceled.
Now that I’m a big, bad, grownup lady, I’ve gone through my share of heartache – divorce, the death of nearly all of my relatives, and the suicide of a friend. And you know what I’ve discovered? This sort of thing is just as hard to deal with in your thirties as it is in your teens. In fact, I daresay it’s even harder, because our hearts go deeper now, and we realize how precious friends and family are, and we realize that life isn’t fair. And it’s interesting and sometimes shocking to me to see how people deal with their feelings when they’re going through a crisis. I’ve learned along the way that people sometimes do fucked up things, but life still goes on. It’s important to recognize that many times we watch the people close to us do really stupid things, and we have to remember that we still love them and care about them and that there’s a REALLY good chance they’ll eventually take a look around and go, “Wow. I was pretty lame, wasn’t I?”
Just something to consider. Hey, I’m not ashamed to admit that many times in my life, I’ve been the one self-destructing. I’ve always noticed which people were right there to stand by me, even in my time of lameness, and which people rolled their eyes and quietly stepped away. And I know I’m not the only one. All of us do this. We all do completely stupid things sometimes, often because our judgment is clouded by shock and grief. The universe may seem completely bass-ackwards to you right now, right at this moment, but the clock continues to tick away, and the situation will continue to evolve, so don’t get too caught up in the details of right now. Pretty soon, those details will become less and less important.
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LaLaGirl is the mother of a teenager and two young sets of twins. She's happily married, loves living in Colorado, and writes almost daily about married life, raising multiples, and parenting a child with autism.
Yet another reason why I love you, Laura. You put into words what I’ve been feeling.
:::hugg::: If I ever roll my eyes, I’ll do it to your face. I kid, I kid! You are one amazing woman.
Straight up. This is why I love Laura, too!
Very well put. Thanks for sharing that. Seems like you took all my jumbled thoughts and make sense of them.
I loved this post…you say things well…what people think, but aren’t sure how to express